Let me share with you a few reasons about why you are a good mom. If you house is anything like ours you have a lot of rough days.
You are a good mom because you survived another day without Child Protective Services showing up at your house. You survived another day of keeping your kids alive. You survived another day of sass, attitude, and shear madness.
Am I crazy for thinking “Why would CPS come to our house”? Well.. how many days have you dropped your kids off at school with a red face and eyes because they have been crying all morning? You pull up to the drop off line and just pray nobody asks questions. Well, guess what go ahead and ask questions and I will happily tell you the reason they are crying.
They are red faced and eyes because its 25 degrees outside and I made them put socks on their feet. I made them change the underwear that I found out they have been wearing for oh I don’t know about a week now!! Really? I give you clean underwear DAILY! Why oh why are you not putting them on? So you know what I do.. I take them to pick out socks and underwear that yes, in fact they do like. Guess what happens. Yup, they still fight you about the socks and underwear. As much guilt as you feel for fighting with them about this issue, you are in fact a good mom.
Is every day not the same routine? Get up, get dressed, brush your teeth and hair, pack your backpack. Same thing Monday-Friday. I personally would think it would become natural after all these years of doing the same thing. No, nope, not one bit. There is still the constant reminder of the same list of things to do every day. Everyone ends up frustrated and once again you are dropping off those red faced kids praying again that nobody asks questions. You know who ends up feeling the worst after a bad morning? You! You the mom. But guess what- You are still a good mom. No matter how many times you have to remind about the same things. Thats what makes you a good mom. The fact that you do it with grace while holding your composure.
I remember when my kids were little and everyone kept telling me- Wait until they are teenagers. Thinking to myself how could it possible get any worse than it is now with the sass, attitude, back talking, not listening, temper tantrums. Here’s the deal. It will not get any easier. Oh and guess what! You no longer have to wait until those teenage years. Puberty is happening much much earlier.
You thought you had to wait until they were teenagers before you had to deal with puberty? Guess again. Its starting so early now that I’m over here hoping that when we do hit those teenage years they have mellowed out.
You are a good mom. Why? Because you are navigating all the stress of daily life while raising kids and keeping a good composure. You don’t let your kids see all the stress you are carrying. You keep a pretty good poker face when you really just want to break down and call it quits. You keep going. You know that there isn’t a chance of giving up. This, this right here is why you are in fact a good mom. You keep going even on those days you don’t want to.
You are doing an amazing job of guiding your kids through this emotional rollercoaster that they are on. They don’t understand what they are going through. They still believe in Santa, the tooth fairy, and Easter Bunny. Yet, even though they are still so little and innocent they are still going through so many changes. Its sad but you are doing an amazing job of guiding and teaching, even on the roughest of rough days! Keep going’ momma, you are doing a great job.
My kids call grandma’s the “safe house”. I swear I do not harm my children in any way what so ever. However, sometimes I need that break after dealing with their emotional breakdowns all week. I am not embarrassed to say that when it gets to the point where I can’t handle their drama and stress- I make them call the “safe house” and drop them off there! We are still good moms! We absolutely deserve that small break. Not only do we deserve it, so do our kids! Realizing this is what makes you a good mom.
The next time you feel that mom guilt creeping in, drop those kids off and go grab yourself a coffee or tea. Go walk around Target. Do something for you! You know just as much as I do that we moms rarely get anytime to ourselves. Its just our duty. We are moms 24/7 so throw that guilt out the window because honestly, you are doing an amazing job. You are teaching your kids how to not be little brats. (Even though we may feel differently) You are doing everything right no matter what our kids tell us. You are awesome and should never feel guilty about doing one small thing for yourself after a rough morning, day, or week. You absolutely deserve 5 minutes peace!
Please know, it is not just you! We are all going through the same things. We are all feeling the same way. I used to think it was just me but the more I talked about it and opened up about what I was dealing with regarding my kids. I quickly realized we are all on this mom journey together. You are not alone. Some of us have been there some of us are still learning to navigate this kid friendly life. But yes, we are all in this together. Have no shame, we got this and we will all get through it together because we are all amazing moms and can learn a thing or two from each other.
Thanks for listening to me once again <3 I’m still learning this blogging thing but I needed to get this off my chest! I may not be a super awesome writer but this blog is bringing me some happiness. I hope you are enjoying too!
